Tuesday, June 9, 2009

The 2 fears that drive relationship decisions

1. The fear of being alone
2. The fear of being with someone who would make you unhappy

Things about these fears:
  • They act in opposition to each other
  • Everyone ascribes different weights to these fears when making decisions
  • The weights people ascribe to these fears changes through different points of life
  • Number 1 is the root cause of relationship decisions where people stay in relationships they should not
  • Number 2 is the root cause of commitment issues
  • Past experiences heavily determine people's fears

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